Marriage! I have always wondered why this word could mean a whole lot of difference in the life of an individual...thinking about it coudnt get me to any solution...so started writing this post...but i am sure that at the end of this I you will be able to read whats in my mind...
Marriage is love binding two people. Its about sharing everything about you with one person...more than sharing I feel it is accepting the other person as they are. You meet them, talk to them and decide that he or she is going to be your life partner and 
thats the final decision. After that you can make no choice, no choice of making the person look better or look bad, or change the way that person presents themselves or anything about that person....it is only mere acceptance of the person as and how they are as that is what they were when you made the decision of making them your life partner... expecting the person to change is one of the main reasons why a lot of marriages break up... a lot of men assume that their wife will be like their mom or some other ideal women thay have met before and a lot of women assume that their husband will be like their father or brother or some gentlemen they had met and hence get depressed when they find that their partner is not so....see the basic fact is that no one can change their character and behavior for love and even if they do it will not be long before they come back to their usual selves...what each of us have to understand is that your partner has been the way he / she is all her life and that is the way they will be in the rest of the life too, only that they have chosen you to be their partner.....
So, once you have chosen the person, accept them as they are and that is pure love and that is what will make the marriage last....
thats the final decision. After that you can make no choice, no choice of making the person look better or look bad, or change the way that person presents themselves or anything about that person....it is only mere acceptance of the person as and how they are as that is what they were when you made the decision of making them your life partner... expecting the person to change is one of the main reasons why a lot of marriages break up... a lot of men assume that their wife will be like their mom or some other ideal women thay have met before and a lot of women assume that their husband will be like their father or brother or some gentlemen they had met and hence get depressed when they find that their partner is not so....see the basic fact is that no one can change their character and behavior for love and even if they do it will not be long before they come back to their usual selves...what each of us have to understand is that your partner has been the way he / she is all her life and that is the way they will be in the rest of the life too, only that they have chosen you to be their partner.....So, once you have chosen the person, accept them as they are and that is pure love and that is what will make the marriage last....
2 comments:
Hi
Did u write this blog having someone in your mind? I mean someone's experience. I agree to your point and i am doing the same thing with my partner. Gud work. Include ur other poetries also.
Arun
I have a MCP's point of view.....
"Man can build a house but it takes a woman to make it a home". Agree or disagree that is my view of marriage.
Your post is from that of a city bred girl. Marriage means compromise and adjustments and above all "SACRIFICE". If u meet a village girl she would be able to tell the true meaning of marriage. Our views are education biased and western influenced. I have seen people who have changed after marriage for the good. That is one thing good about indian marriages.
Change for good is welcome and it is positive and needed.
It seems someone is getting ready for an important stage of life!!?!!!
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